She's Gotta Have It
Before it was a tv show, it was a movie by Spike Lee, who won an oscar this year for his film, The Black Klansman . (It's about time, right?) The movie seemed great, but I didn't connect with it in 1986. I was only a teenager then and was not allowed to watch it. Years later, I saw the movie and thought Nola Darling and her three lovers were a bit too much. All the shameful names women are called for having more than one man in their life came to mind, slut, whore, (or "ho" as we people of color like to say), and adulteress. I felt Nola was a nymphomaniac that avoided commitment. However, when the tv series appeared on Netflix in 2017, one of my girlfriends told me I needed to watch it because the character, Nola, reminded her of me. I was taken aback at first, feeling hurt that my friend thinks I am a slut. After all, I am married with six kids and three grandchildren, so what in the world? However, I began to watch the show, (now in s